So after my solo dinner and venting blog post (and more wine and venting to the husband) on Wednesday, the rest of the week ran far more smoothly – until I locked myself out of the house this morning and left Miss 6’s school bag behind. Hubs had to double back to let me in so I could get the bag back up to the school before recess. Much fun…
I never forget my key. This was the one morning I didn’t triple check that I had it before I closed the door behind me. It wasn’t in its bowl on the TV unit so I just assumed it was still in my handbag from the day before.
Needless to say, it was not.
Plus it was the Book Week Parade at school so Miss was dressed as a Rainbow Magic Fairy, hence not wearing her backpack.
Of course that was the one bloody day I didn’t have my key.
This just strengthens my resolve to get my damn house in order already. My key was on the TV unit, but in the wrong spot for some reason, and camouflaged by the clutter I can never keep at bay.
But I have a weapon now…
Yep, I’m firmly on the KonMari bandwagon. I bought the ebook a couple of weeks ago and have read through it twice now, with a third reading in progress. I love it so much! Why?
She acknowledges the emotional attachment to possessions – and actually honours it:
The things we own are real. They exist here and now as a result of choices made in the past by no one other than ourselves. It is wrong to ignore them or to discard them indiscriminately as if denying the choices we made. This is why I am against both letting things pile up and dumping things without proper consideration. It is only when we face the things we own one by one and experience the emotions they evoke that we can truly appreciate our relationship with them.
Do you have any idea how mind-blowing this is?
Every single other book I’ve read about decluttering (and I’ve read a lot) basically tells you that it’s bad to invest emotionally in “things” rather than relationships and experiences. All that stuff just holds you down, man! Rip the Bandaid off and just get rid of it already!!
Marie instead gets you to acknowledge that everything you have brought into your house has served some purpose in your life – even if that purpose was to teach you what you don’t like or need, or simply to provide you with the thrill of buying it. She actually provides a simple framework to focus on the things you want to keep rather than the things you want to get rid of by holding each of your things, one by one, and asking: “Does this spark joy?”
If it doesn’t, she encourages you to express gratitude to the item before you let it go and move on to the next one.
The process is simple and mindful and beautiful – and it works. I’ve already gone through my clothing (which she sets as the first category to be handled) using this approach and it was amazing.
Thankfully I’d already whittled down my clothing stash over the last few years – and had in fact done a cull just before I bought the book – so it didn’t take long. I was quite simply blown away by how easy this process was. I reduced my closet by at least half and easily let go of clothes that I’d been holding onto for years due to sentimentality.
I did keep most of my discards aside and go through them again a few days later, just in case it was too good to be true. A couple of pieces made it back into my wardrobe but everything else just looked dead to me. There was no attachment anymore (apart from one tattered shirt that I wore through both pregnancies and many late night breastfeeding sessions. It got a few teary kisses and hugs before I put it back in the discard bag).
Plus, as an added bonus, I LOVE getting dressed every day! I have far fewer clothes to choose from but they’re all neatly folded or hung in their own spaces with no dud outfits vying for attention. They all feel good and look good on me and give me a little swagger to my step once I finish off with the perfect scarf and shoes to match (which is weird for a normally non-girly girl like me).
I can’t wait to get stuck into the rest of the house now.
You guys, this is a game-changer.